Do You Know What You Value?

Posted August 27, 2013 by Terri Stark

Do you know what you value?  Honesty?  Integrity? Creativity?  Service?  Values are intangibles.  They are not something you do or have.  They are the melody underneath the notes on the sheet music that is your life.

“To be mature you have to realize what you value most.  It is extraordinary to discover that comparatively few people reach this level of maturity. They seem never to have paused to consider what has value for them. They spend great effort and sometimes make great sacrifices for values that, fundamentally, meet no real needs of their own. Perhaps they have imbibed the values of their particular profession or job, of their community or their neighbors, of their parents or family. Not to arrive at a clear understanding of one’s own values is a tragic waste.  You have missed the whole point of what life is for.”  – Eleanor Roosevelt

Eleanor Roosevelt

In our book, The Quantum Olympicswe write about inner and outer influences and how, often times, we are living someone else’s beliefs and perceptions.  The same can be said about values.  We may grow up with a value and then through our life experience pause to consider if that is what we truly believe.

On our website under Tools & Resources, we have a worksheet titled Does It Stay or Does It Go?  If you aren’t sure about your values or if you think you might be living someone else’s beliefs, you can use the worksheet to help you evaluate.  It is a free download and you can find it here!

Another option is to think back to a time when you thoroughly enjoyed an activity. Look at the experience and ask yourself what it was that made that activity so special?  Why did it mean so much to you? Was it how you felt during the activity? Did you feel satisfied and fulfilled? What essence, qualities, skills, or behaviors were especially meaningful to you?

It is up to you to claim your life. You are the one who can make changes. You are the one to find what you value and go live that as a thread through the whole of your life. Regardless of your occupation, where you live, or what you have, TODAY you can stand up and say, “I value authenticity and I am that in my work, in my relationships, in my whole life even when I am washing the dishes.” Bring your values to conscious awareness. Let your values guide you to prioritizing your life. Chances are, they are the measuring stick you are using to determine if you are satisfied with your life.

Values often change as we live life so it is always a good idea to check in – especially if you are feeling any dissatisfaction with your life. So I ask again, Do You Know What You Value?




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