I recently read two articles on self-love and self-compassion. One was in the Huffington Post: 5 Scienced-Backed Reasons It’s Important To Love Yourself by Lindsay Holmes and the other in Scientific American: Self-Compassion Fosters Mental Health by Marina Krokovsky. They are both thoughtful and insightful. If you have ever or currently suffer at the hand of your own severe self-criticism, this blog post is for you!
“When it comes to close relationships, by now we’ve probably got this whole “best friend” thing down pat. We give them a confidence boost when they don’t feel their best. We’re supportive of them when they fail at something. We encourage them when they’re unsure of taking on new challenges. We’re an all-around uplifting influence in their lives.
These positive behaviors toward our friends are probably as natural as breathing. So why is it so hard to do this for ourselves?
We rarely give ourselves the credit we deserve — despite the fact that a plethora of research shows that if we treat ourselves with the same kindness we use on others, we’d live healthier and happier lives. Isn’t it about time we turn that around?”
Below are five ways loving yourself can improve your quality of life — and a few habits you can practice in order to get there.
Accepting yourself can make you happier.
It could encourage you to reach those health goals.
Self-compassion may help with mental health issues.
It can push you to stop procrastinating.
Loving yourself can lead you through adversity.
Read the full article here!
“Self-compassion is distinct from self-esteem, a trait that can shade into narcissism. Nor should it be confused with self-pity or self-indulgence. “Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness and care you’d treat a friend,” says Kristin Neff, a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin and the leading researcher in the growing field of self-compassion. People who are self-compassionate avoid harsh cri-tiques or negative generalizations of themselves, and they see their troubles as part of the human condition.
Contrary to what many people think, treating yourself kindly is also good for achieving your goals. “People believe that self-criticism helps to motivate them,” Neff says. Those low in self-compassion think that unless they are hard on themselves, they will not amount to much—but research reveals that being kind to yourself does not lower your standards. “With self-compassion, you reach just as high, but if you don’t reach your goals it’s okay because your sense of self-worth isn’t contingent on success,” she explains.”
Read the full article here!
So how about it, can you let go of all the self-criticism and start treating yourself with the love and compassion you deserve?